Is CoCo jealous of Courtney?

My niece's are coming for a visit....they are sisters..but so very different......I feel CoCo might be jealous of Courtney....because I love to hold Courtney on my lap....and cuddle her....but I keep CoCo at arms length.....I feel so bad about this.....I love them both the same...but CoCo...is a dirty girl....and doesn't bath much in the winter....I have bought her some of her favorite GARDENIA body wash...and I hope she uses it.....how can I make CoCo understand that I love her....with out embarrassing her...about being a dirty girl?
Is CoCo jealous of Courtney?
Hi, Sweet Judy!! :-)

Well, I told both of your nieces about this message. CoCo was a little surprised to find out that Courtney has been using some of Mom's Gardenia Bath and Body products. What CoCo does not seem to quite understand is that by just standing under the water that you don't get as clean as when you use a wash rag and liquid

soap like Courtney. Plus CoCo has longer hair than Courtney, so it is much harder for her to get the soap out. I need to cut a lot of that hair off of CoCo, especially once winter is over. Courtney likes to lather up twice with liquid soap, use conditioning body lotion, and lately, she's been into my Gardenia perfumed body products. CoCo does not wash as well, she doesn't rinse as well, she seldom ever keeps herself soft with body lotion, and I honestly don't know for sure whether CoCo likes perfumed body products like Courtney

does. I sure hope that since both Courtney and I like the Gardenia Bath and Body Wash, the body lotion and the perfume spray, that maybe CoCo will also listen to you better than she listens to me. That girl is so darn stubborn! Fortunately, not all kids are like that!



These two silly girls of mine are truly complete opposites when it comes to cleanliness. Courtney loves to be squeaky clean and CoCo is just not as concerned as she should be that she may still leave some dirt behind. I have to remind CoCo that she is not little

and not getting all the dirt off of her. CoCo surely should know that by now. :(



For certain, I will make sure that I talk to CoCo once again before she and Courtney come to visit you because I think CoCo might rebel even more if everyone comes down on her about her not being as clean as she should be. She honestly just does not seem to understand that people would rather hug and cuddle a clean girl as opposed to one that is not as clean as she could possibly be. I guess I will have to see if I can reason with CoCo

before she comes up to see you. It's one thing when I tell the girls something, but they really get embarrassed when someone else lectures them about what they should and should not do.



They both love their Sweet Aunt Judy, though. I've told CoCo that if she doesn't clean up her act, that Aunt Judy may take her aside,

talk to her and it might embarrass her because she is the older of the two girls. Both of us know that CoCo doesn't want to be told what to do or worse yet, be embarrassed in front of other people. I have told her that she needs to put forth a lot more effort when it comes to bathing and coming out of the bath still kind of dirty. I'm glad this isn't a year round problem for CoCo because she is so much better about bathing during the Spring and Summer.



CoCo knows that she really should set a better example for her younger sister, but I think you are right about CoCo. CoCo does seem to be a little jealous of Courtney, but I don't treat one girl any better than I treat the other. They are both spoiled.



When you suggest how nice Courtney smells to CoCo, perhaps it might embarrass CoCo just enough to where she will want to be as clean as Courtney. I certainly hope that if I can not make a better impesssion on CoCo than the ones I've tried so far, that perhaps you will be able to get through to her about how important it is for

girls her age not to be such tomboys. Most boys are generally not this bad with their hygiene at this age.



Even though CoCo thinks she's a bit big to cuddle, she still likes to cuddle and hug! And I think that jealousy may be a big part of the problem. She is at that rebellious stage to where she thinks she can do as she pleases. But boys are not going to like CoCo if she's a dirty tom-girl, so we'll have to see if we can convince her that it's time for her to be more aware about her hygiene, if she hopes to keep her friends.



I guess that CoCo is going to develop more slowly than Courtney has when it comes to certain things. Really and truly, I never would have thought it would be this way. I thought it would honestly be the

exact opposite, having a younger girl and expecting her to be the dirtier of the two girls, but I thought wrong. Courtney still likes to stay in the tub and CoCo is just in too big of a hurry to get through with her bath, so she is just going to have to slow down. Perhaps once they get to see Aunt Judy, Courtney will say something to CoCo and she will become self-conscious and afraid you won't hug

and cuddle her if she doesn't get as clean as possible.



This is probably one of the worst things I've had to deal with since our daughter, Jodi, was a tomboyish little girl and she hated to take

a bath, too. But as she hit her teenage years and started liking lots

of boys, everything turned around very quickly. Sometimes, Jodi would take as many as three baths per day!! I'm sure you can just imagine what our water bill was like. It's like that now with our teen son because he can't stand being dirty at all.



I will be sure to send their blankies with them and be sure to let me know what weekend you want me to fly them up there to see you.

Oh, and don't forget....Courtney still likes to sleep with us, so she will probably want to sleep with you, too. CoCo, fortunately, is at least used to sleeping by herself.



LOL, I am so glad that the girls are coming to see you. They will get to meet their new adopted cousin. Courtney gets along with everyone, but once again, you'll have to watch CoCo and her smart mouth. She is so funny and awkward around boys and has so much growing up to do.



I will buy their plane tickets as soon as you let me know when it is convenient for you to keep them one weekend.



Bye for now, Sweet Judy and xoxoxo from CoCo and Courtney. Oh, and our teenager said to tell you 'hi,' too, and that he wishes he was able to come up, but with track season starting, his new Athletic schedule is going to be very inconvenient! ;)



Take care and I guess you'll let us know when a good weekend is for you to take off and spend with our girls.
Reply:She probably is...Sweet Judy, maybe there is more going on here. Can you pull her aside and talk. Maybe she is jealous of her sister and not bathing is a way of getting attention. Sometimes children think negative attention is better than none at all.

Perhaps a Little more positive attention is what she needs.
Reply:Hi Sweet Judy,

Boy that is a tough one... Tell CoCo that you Love her and Courtney the same and just say," Courtney has something on that smells so good i like holding her".. CoCo if you had that sweet smell i would Love to cuddle you and put you on my lap so i can show you i Love you just has much as i do all my Grand Children.. I know this isn't very good but just may be this will work My Friend,

A Friend,

poppy1
Reply:Hard call. Don't cuddle either of them until they bathe. Explain it to your siser. Tell CoCo why. Even a 5 year old understands that if they stink they won't get far in what they want.
Reply:While they are with you, you may teach them the benefits of cleanliness.You may create a competition between the sisters and award a prize every day to the cleanest girl. If you do, you have taught Co-Co about personal hygiene for the life.
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